Monday, 26 November 2012

Being a big girl isn't always easy, some times we need a little inspiration!

Today I decided to write about something I really hadn't intended to EVER blog about. I was laid in bed last night next to my B-E-A-UTIFUL husband and thinking (as I do often) "how did I manage to get a guy like this". I have always been a bigger girl and so my confidence has been like a rollercoaster over the years! I put on 2 pounds and I would feel awful, for years my happiness was DIRECTLY controlled by my weight. I went on like this for years until one day I decided that I didn't want a life that was solely controlled by my diet and the way I looked so I made he conscious decision to be happy for the person I was regardless of my size.   I set out to find other like minded women that were "fat and happy" and I have to tell you that what I came across was pretty amazing. All over the world there seems to be a revolution happening where plus size women have decided that they no longer want to feel ashamed of how they look. I started by looking at models like Tess Munster and seeing that instead of hiding away they were embracing their curvy bodies!! This was deffinetly the way forward! I threw out baggy jeans and T-shirts and brought in Leggings, Dresses, Crop tops even. From then on I can honestly say that I have been 10000 times happier and more confident, infact I would say that I am happier NOW then when i was at my thinnest. Now I am not saying that it is an easy transition, I have bad days like everybody else where I feel like I have my own planetary orbit BUT for the most it is plain sailing. It took me a very long time to realise that I can dress exactly how I like. The fear of wearing a short skirt was not because I thought I looked bad, it was because I was scared of how other people would react! There really is no better time that the present to decide that you are gorgeous and if other people have an issue with that well then it really is a shame that they have to judge other people to feel good about themselves.

Now we come to the subject in hand, I often wonder how I ended up with such a gorgeous man. The answer is very simple, I started to like myself and it meant that I was an open door for other people to view me that way. It is no secret in our household that my fella prefers a curvier lady to your average size ten BUT    what is a body without a good personality? I would NEVER have approached a man because I had the fear of getting shot down in flames but when I met Ben I decided to bite the bullet. I had a new view on  life and on myself and I decided that I liked this guy and for once I was going to go for it! I went for it and 1 year later I married that man and am tremendously happy.I guess what I am trying to say is that it is time for you to love yourself (not just us curvy girls but everyone)! I am not saying that my happiness is dependant on finding a husband atall but that I am happy that I have made this change because I got to marry my best friend and THAT makes me happy. Lets stop putting clothes back on the rail because they show to much flesh, stop writing off leggings and crop tops and bikin's and say YES! As cheesy as it sounds you do have to love the skin you are in, if you want anyone else to love you then start loving yourself. I can honestly say that the day I decided to be happy and embrace the way I look, my life has continually got better and better. I hope at least one person will read this and change their mind about what they see in the mirror every day xxxx


  1. What a lovely post! My weight has always yo-yo'ed between a size 10 and a size 16 although more like 14-16 for the past 4(ish) years. I always hated my legs and would never dream of wearing dresses or skirts but one day I was in the queue at H&M and on impulse picked up a dress that someone had left lying around... it was lovely and in my size, so I bought it... and I worried about what people would think about my legs but then I thought 'F what anyone else thinks!' and now I feel more confident in dresses and skirts than I do in trousers. My happiness was controlled by my weight too, and it's only now that I'm starting to have a different outlook on my self. As a PCOS sufferer I find it very very hard to lose weight no matter what I eat and no matter how much I exercise, so I am trying to be happy in my 'curvy' self! So this is a refreshing and motivational post for someone like me! xx

  2. I am so so so so happy to log on and see a reply like this, I think alot of girls feel the same and its about plucking up that little bit of courage to say "screw you world, I'll be who I am" i only hope that more women can find the motivation to really love themselves! thankyou you are my first ever reply n____n

  3. This was lovely to read! I have had issues with my weight too ever since i was 10. basically made my life hell!
    the photo of you and your husband is absolutely gorgeous too!! hope you keep blogging!

  4. awww thankyou so much n___n its so nice to see people are reading my little blog xx